What do women want from a relationship?

I know this a heavy grey area to dive into. I think i have a sense of it though. So what women do want from a relationship?

Most likely answer is love, nurturing, being appreciated and desire. Well these are the requirements, but not necessarily the bedrock of their wants.

What women want from a relationship is what the man has display he has to offer at the beginning of the courtship.

When  a woman enter into a relationship, she has an intuitive sense of what will define the course of the relationship based on how her man has presented to her initially.

Let me illustrate, a woman is at a stage of her life where she is looking to get married and settle down. She meets a man and as she gets to know him, she realizes that the man tick mark all the boxes of what she is looking for and just because he fills all the criteria for her, the woman starts liking him.

She falls in love with the idea of him and his world and not necessarily only him.

Assuming the woman is looking for settling in America for whatever reasons and the man happens to be someone who lives in America then she will most likely will fall for idea of his universe that comes being with him.

Now here is the kicker, once the world of the man changes as in, his career force him to shift his base to some place where the woman would not like to live , then slowly and gradually she starts falling out of love and also in the process loses respect for him.

(Real life example: Imran Khan legendary pakistani cricketer marriage to actress Jemima Goldsmith)

The woman behavior changes from liking everything about the man to disliking most of the man’s behavior.


Similarly if a woman just want to have a casual fling and she meets a man who tells the woman that he have only casual flings and  also arouses her enough to get into a casual fling , but after a week or so spending time with this man, he acts as serious boyfriend material type behavior, the woman again in this case becomes re spiteful of him and pushes him away.

Its because his offer initially was in align with her wants and later on it changed to something else.

The great example would be arrange marriage, both men and women enter into marriage after both parties assessing the background, wealth, status, values,etc.

Suppose after marriage due to circumstances, things change, security which the woman was promised disappear, then slowly and gradually woman loses respect for the man and she considers leaving him.

This brings me to my third line what women want is what she was shown as the foundation of the relationship.

Read more an interesting perspective on What do women want in a relationship to be happy at womenlite:






3 thoughts on “What do women want from a relationship?

  1. That is a very strange set of thoughts. A relationship is two sided – you write as though the woman is in a relationship alone

    While some of the things you are saying may hold true – but they are true for men too.

    The Imran Khan example really irked me. While I’m not entirely up on his relationships- he definitely is a changed man now. A fundamental radical Muslim- Something he certainly was not years ago. So yes, if a man I love becomes a whole different person- I would have a problem.
    His problem was not that he moved back to Pakistan.

    Anyway I applaud you for writing but some of the thoughts are too simplified and thus condescending to women

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    1. Jemima goldsmith clearly stated that moving to pakistan and not able to adapt to pakistani culture was primary reason for her divorce..
      A man may love you and not change as a person, but when a person gets married, she does not just do it for love but also for what choices he brings along with him.
      For example a man is rich and a particular woman likes that part of him.. But due to whatever reasons the man loses his wealth, women mostly also loses attraction and respect for him..
      That is my point , what women want in a relationship is what the man displayed initially consciously or unconsciously..

      I am giving here only women side of things..
      I am glad you read my post and take pains to comment..I enjoy it


      1. I don’t care one bit about Imran khan or his wife. From the little I know of him is that he totally changed as a man.
        While I think I may know your intention, it still comes across as condescending towards women

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