This is the third part of ongoing series of post of How women are wired differently.
What i am writing is controversial and might sound rubbish. Well, that’s ok because even i thought the same way when i read it first in a book by Zan Perrion but later when i experience it, i had to come to comfort with it.
When a man is asked about the number of women he slept with, usually a good rule of thumb is to divide that number by three. And with women multiply the number by three. Offcourse i am generalizing. Now here is he kicker, men know that they are lying about the number of women they slept with, but with women they actually believe what they are saying. In women’s mind they are not lying because they have convinced themselves that some sexual experiences simply do not count. Yes and again for women there are some sexual experiences do not count.
What does that even mean?
For women any sexual encounters are not a scoring game, in fact they want to keep their number low so that they are not judge. So a woman who wants to edit any sexual experience will do so by blaming on circumstances, for example she was too drunk, she had to do it because the man duped her by something, etc. Reasons can be anything, it is called plausible deniability.
Now there are some men that are given free pass in the world of women. These men have put in their time to understand the hearts and mind of women and most important they have come to comfort with it. These men also do not count.
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This one was heavy to write. I would love read any comments on it.
Way of Men 
While we all generalize – the generalizations in this piece are tremendous. I don’t know what you mean by certain sexual encounters don’t count. If I had sex with someone – then I had sex with someone. It’s a different matter if it wasn’t good, the man was a dick, I regretted it, etc.
If one lies about the number of people they slept with, it has nothing to do with who counts and who doesn’t – they are just lying to get a certain consequence
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Yes i agree i do generalize..
Ok this is my learning, women don’t lie about their number as in they believe the number they mention..
women want to keep their number low to avoid feelings of guilt and being a bad person as they are socially programmed since childhood that having sex with random man just for pleasure makes them a bad person..
SO to keep their number low they resort to plausible deniability..They edit certain encounters ..
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By your definition I’m not a woman. To be fair, not the woman you talk about. While my number is my number, I keep it that way because I find a casual hookup unsatisfactory.
You live you learn
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Certainly Not every woman in the world fits in this definition, but this is true for lot of women.. Talk to your female friends about this..
“Casual hookup unsatisfactory” is a good way to edit some encounters and keep your number as your number..
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I have and while I don’t know what they actually say to men in private, our math is pretty good. Not sure which women you are speaking with but am glad you are writing
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i have experienced this myself. My ex and me were still into each other at a time. I thought we will get back and then this guy came into picture a rich and handsome dude he made her thirsty obviously. They had a fling. And i was heartbroken yes. And i asked her what did you do with him? She said nothing we just kissed thats it. I assume it went further. She was so easy with it i coudnt take it. Women take sexual experiences on their own term and conditions.
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There you go..I completely understand what you just said..
Women has a different end of their logic, instead of fighting i prefer accepting it.
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There is nothing different or big. Simple fact of my reasearching into the whole thing is women know “Pussy” has a big value. They tend to believe they can act anyway because ultimately men tend to just let go off the hook easily. Men are easy they intuitively know. This draws a trap for us and they act on their wish.
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