I am generally quite curious about how world of women functions.
Invariably I keep asking questions to women who I often end up in a conversation with.
One of my all time favourite question is, “what is one or few things you don’t like about your Man?”
More than 90% of time the answer points to one word in different form and that is EGO.
Specifically women who are in long term committed relationships.
Ego and Men are literally synonymous for most women.
Ego arises or operate through different forms via Man.
As men’s fundamental need is Approval from other men, ego does what it can to make sure nothing comes in the way to get that approval or rather no disapproval.
And so the underlying emotion ego operates is through fear.
To give few consistent examples which I have gleaned over few years.
A man saying to her woman,
“You can’t wear that”
Underlying meaning – There is a threat to my territory(woman) because you look attractive and there is a possibility of some man attempting to conquer it.
“Your opinions are stupid so dont speak”( in front of his friends)
Underlying meaning – let my friends see that I have the control over you my WOMAN. This is how man are suppose to Be.
“Who are you talking to?” Or “Where were you?”(in an irritating tone)
Underlying meaning – You are my property, I can’t tolerate any threat to it.
Sometimes women have told me that in front of other people her man showers affection but in personal space he turns his body away, metaphorically speaking.
Ego is an illusory self image created by every human being unconsciously while growing up.
Having Ego is not bad or good thing, but being unaware of it, leads to controlling you and your actions.
Awareness of ego in itself is curative to this unconscious problem.